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Healing from our past traumas is something we all must do in order to move forward to gain happiness and future success. Oftentimes we don't realize that if we wait to heal, we are actually prolonging the process; causing more pent up anger and possibly even rage. One of the most important things is especially the harmony that may come from our healing; inner peace is always priceless.

In this video, Coach Fatimah discovered that waiting to heal placed much "weight" on her shoul...

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We know that it is not always peaches and cream or sunshine and rainbows when it comes to building our best relationships. It take time, patience understanding among other things. What about when the going gets rough? What about the times where you just can't seem to agree or those instances that may set off certain triggers that can cause things to blow up in ways that can be hard to come back from?

We don't have to fight every battle that comes our way in our relationships. The...

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Years ago I learned a philosophy that has served my family and I well. That philosophy is summed up in 3 words: 'Faith, Family, Finances'. This has served me by reminding me of priorities and things of which I must be aware. [Click here to watch Video]

I don't come from a privileged background where my family environment was mainly encouraging and nurturing, it was quite the opposite. Experiencing this as a boy caused me to form some rather strong ideas of what I'd like my famil...

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NEW BLOG ALERT!! It's time for a STORY time blog! In our new blog, Coach Fatimah discusses a recent Eid celebration in her community which was full of lots of laughs, funs and great memories! However, there was just one catch.

Oftentimes, when there are celebrations such as Eid or Jummah, many friends & co-wives have the opportunity to meet one another for the FIRST time. We all know that those moments can become particularly tense because our friends may feel hurt, defensive o...

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As much as we speak and train on marriage and relationships, we tend to give polygyny a little more attention. That is why I am not surprised that there are those out there who think that we may have a thing against monogamy.

To set the record straight, we don't. We were in monogamous marriages before polygyny, and as polygyny is a form of marriage, so is monogamy. And as we simply state, time and time again, we are PRO MORALS. I created a video that explains why we focus on pol...

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Being a subsequent wife is not without its challenges and I know that is hard for some to believe as we live in a society that believes that subsequent or incoming wives have it made because they succeeded in "taking someone else's man". I know that sounds harsh, however it is a harsh reality for subsequent wives to get shunned, disrespected and put on the back burner to ease the fears, tensions and ill feelings of an initial wife. This is not a versus or comparison post, it is on...

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Being married with children can have it's benefits as well as it's challenges, right? Now think about children in a polygynynous family. Do you think there are a host of other challenges that can arise? Can the benefits of connecting with any and all bonus children outweigh any challenges that could and may come from initial awkwardness, fear or uncertainty of being in a polygynous family?

I share my story about one of the polygyny mistakes I've made regarding my bonus children i...

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A variety of issues can arise when it comes to polygyny. One of them is feeling abandoned; feeling alone without your spouse. Many times abandonment issues aren't discussed in polygyny and the feeling of abandonment can leave you feeling helpless and often times, unloved. In this video I will be discussing abandonment issues in my perspective as an initial wife. You can check out the video HERE!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us at support@outstandin...

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As marriage and polygyny coaches, we get asked a plethora of questions. As parents who are in polygyny, those questions increase. How do you transition your children? How do you equip them to handle being part of a family that practices that form of marriage? How do you handle the fears, challenges or insecurities that may arise? Of course, these are just a few of the questions and the short, easy answer is through patience and communication.

However, we know that complicated sit...

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There are many questions that surround polygyny. How did your family react to polygyny? What interests you about polygyny? How did the children react? In this video, Coach Nyla, Nazir, & Fatimah are interviewed by Eloheem Ali; @al_kemets on Instagram. They are asked questions on their perspectives of polygyny, the affects of polygyny, and much more. Be sure to subscribe to our YouTube channel (@OutstandingPersonalRelationships) so you don't miss out on the upcoming parts.

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